Therapy for Relational Trauma and Attachment in California
Therapy for women who keep landing in the same relationship patterns and want to understand why.
When relationships keep following the same script
Different person, different year, same ending. You tell yourself this time will be different, and somehow the pattern finds a way back in. It can show up with partners, friends, family, or coworkers, and it's rarely about one bad choice.
Maybe you notice:
-Replaying conversations, wondering what you did wrong
-Over-giving, then feeling resentful or invisible
-Pulling away when things get close, or holding on tighter when someone pulls back
-Staying in relationships long after they stopped feeling good
-Feeling lonely around people who love you
If you can see the pattern but can't seem to stop it, that's not a lack of insight or willpower. Patterns like these usually run deeper than conscious choice, which is why they're worth working on with support.
What is relational trauma?
Relational trauma is hurt that happened inside relationships, especially early ones. Maybe a parent who was unpredictable, critical, or emotionally absent. Maybe a partner who was controlling or unfaithful. Maybe friendships where love felt conditional. It isn't always one big event. Often it's years of small ones.
Your mind and body learned rules for staying safe with people. Attachment is the word for those patterns: how you seek closeness, handle distance, and respond to conflict.
Think of it as an old map. It got you through once, but the roads have changed. These are patterns, not labels, and patterns can change.
How
I
help
We'll work on both the past and the present, at a pace that feels right for you.
-EMDR: helps your brain process painful experiences so they stop shaping how you react today
-Somatic work: helps you notice and settle the body's alarm when closeness feels risky
-Practical tools: for boundaries, difficult conversations, and choosing relationships that feel safe
My approach is Think. Feel. Act. Understand where your patterns come from, feel what's underneath them, and practice new ways of connecting.
